McCloud Wedding
Majority of this blog was written during the end of 2015, then added on to during 2016, finally finished in 2017 hahahha. oh well.
I have been itching to write a blog about my wedding ever since the day I got proposed to. If you're into reading about other people and their love story, you're in for a treat. Here is my wedding story with the proposal, the planning, the review of persons we hired, wedding party and the honeymoon.
The Proposal
One regular ol' Sunday afternoon in May of 2014, I had just gotten off my hectic morning shift from the restaurant, Mimi's Cafe, at the St. John's Town Center. This place is known for brunch, and Sunday mornings are indeed the busiest of the week. Servers make anywhere from $100-$250 during a 6-7 hour shift on these mornings. This particular day I believe I rang in around $200, meaning, I ran around A LOT, kissed ass, sold mimosa's and waffles and smiled straight since 7:00 AM!
I came home to a just-cleaned home (yes!) and found my boyfriend of 6 years asking how my day went. As usual, I looked at him like he was crazy for asking and said "I'm tired as FUCKKKK baaaabe!...Let me shower ..and then let's talk!" He knew this was the routine, so he laughed and said, "ha, okay babe" and I quickly stripped out of my dirty pancake-smelling-all-black-uniform and jumped into the shower before my own smell killed me.
After I got dressed I put a little more effort into getting ready. Not only were we due to meet my family for Sunday dinner, but we also had a mini-date to visit with Donald's cousin, Ben, plus his parents who were all surprisingly in town for a day (They live a few hours away but had an appointment in Jacksonville). Ben comes to visit often, but rarely do his parents join so this meant I had to look a littttle prettier than usual, duh.
The plan was to meet Ben and his parents at Memorial Park. It's actually one of my favorite parks and I'm excited to go there for .. well, anything. We parked, started walking, and Donald got on the phone to tell Ben we arrived. I heard him say, "Yeah man, we're here, where are ya'll?" and as we walked toward the huge statue I saw Donald point behind me and say, "There he goes, there's Ben!" I was eager to see Ben (and his parents) so I turned to where Donald pointed and I saw a bunch of older people and a random Asian lady sitting (random, but, she was cute) and I squinted looking for Ben's smiley face, but saw only strangers, so I turned back around to say I didn't see Ben- but right when I turned I see Donald on his knee in front of the statue!!!!
I didn't know what to think! So many thoughts were racing my mind. "Where the hell is Ben? Why is Donald on his knee? What is he doing? Is this a joke? Is Ben even here? Is anyone about to record this monumental moment? Does this mean we aren't having bbq chicken with my family later? WHAT is going on?!"
Donald began to propose to me as both my hands covered my mouth and my eyes widened. He said his sweet, sincere, proposal to me and I was extremely caught off guard and shocked. (Good job, babe!)
The biggest shock factor wasn't that he's proposing to me- come on, we both knew that was eventually coming! BUT when the hell did he get a ring? and how did he know this one was perfect? We actually openly talked about what rings even were because I've never given a damn about wedding planning or dresses or ring styles (WTF? why do we need options?) I just never cared.
We planned (together) to go ring browsing to not only help him know what I like but also for me to discover what these rings were that all girls seem to have memorized since age 10.
So, imagine my surprise. In my head I'm thinking in a few months we are going "ring browsing" and the whole time this stud muffin already had purchased a ring to propose to me with. Smooth, Donald, real smooth. hehehe. I also kept reminding him throughout our relationship that I really wanted to graduate before I got married. I don't handle stress well, let's be real, so I was looking out for him, haha. My graduation was dated for May 2015 and he popped the question during May 2014. Perfect!
The first thing I said to Donald after he proposed was "Are you serious, is this really happening?! When did this happen? When did you? I can't believe this!" to which he replied, "....is that a yes?" and I laughed and exclaimed, "yes! Yes it is! Yes, .... also did you ... talk to my dad?! Does he know?" Donald laughed and said, "Yes, your dad knows, no one knew it was going to be today, but I talked to him a long time ago. :) " I also want to share, the cute Asian lady was staring at us the entire time. No shame. I wish she had a camera or a cell phone or anything! Jeez! But it's okay :)
I was soo ecstatic. It's hard to surprise me. Mainly because I'm the annoying control freak must know it all AT all times type of person, but also, I always seem to just know everything (at least I thought!)
He surprised me, lied to me (Ben was never in town LOL) and it was the perfect location. Memorial Park is where we shared one of our first anniversaries and it holds a dear place in my heart. (aww barf)
We visited with his mom before our dinner plans. She was the first to hear the big news (in person) and my family was right after. The best reaction has to be my younger sister who choked on her chicken and cried out of joy. I will never forget her reaction, it was the best one.
To celebrate this suddenly exciting Sunday we ended our evening with our favorite things. Family, friends, and hookah. We drove to the best hookah spot in Orange Park, Java's, which is owned by my sister's best friends' parents. The owner, (Uncle) Jimmy, gave us a free bottle of wine and a round of hookah to congratulate us. I was puffin hookah, non-stop smiling, and staring at my finger.
It was the most perfect proposal on the most regular Sunday. I wouldn't go back in time and change a a single thing.
Engaged Life
Engagement brought upon a lot of new found experiences. I've obviously never been engaged or proposed to before so unlike my other life expectations this was one that I didn't know anything about. I texted friends and family who weren't able to see me in person before I shared such huge news on social media. To be honest, a handful of responses/lack of responses kind of confused me and made me wonder "WTF?" but I was so overjoyed with this excitement that I didn't pay too much attention to it. Also, friends I had lost touch with were (surprisingly) kind enough to text me once the news was shared on social media with what seemed to be more genuine and filled with love than some people I had texted awaiting replies. All was well though as things worked out how they should.
May 2014 is when Donald asked, and the very next day my crazy summer classes began. I had 5 total courses and 4 were only SIX weeks long. SIX weeks!! I was already tired at the thought. I was also still serving at the restaurant in order to afford all my caffeine and you know, life expenses.
By August I had put together a little bridesmaids 'meet and greet' because I'm weird like that. At the time I had ten bridesmaids. (LOL) I don't know what was wrong with me. Every friend I loved I felt needed to be in the wedding. Bad move. In the end I actually had 6 bridesmaids, so clearly, I need to stop making decision when I'm happy. I just don't think rationally while I'm intoxicated with happiness.
Donald and I had one major focus. The venue. We paid for our entire wedding ourselves, so we had a budget to stick to.
Once we found the venue which ended up being The Sheraton Hotel in Jacksonville, FL we paused on our engagement plans. We didn't have the time to book cakes and DJs and decorators.
We just were happy we had a venue which also catered food and beverages and we sat back, hanging out, allll the way until May 2015. We're pretty cool like that. My graduation was a success and school was over!! (YAY) so after the first week of May, we went insane booking everything and everyone. It was fun, stressful, hard, annoying, nice, and chaotic.
To sum up the year of engagement, I learned a lot. I saw a lot of people's true (selfish) colors. Some individuals will never be able to put aside their own ego for you, the person of honor. And you know what? That's okay (now) I learned a lot and I see many people in different lights. At the same time I learned which friends and family are truly amazing and would do anything just to ensure I am okay. I am forever grateful for these people and as I get older and get busier with new chapters in life, I know which few to keep a little closer. Friends do ultimately become your chosen family.
The Hiree's
I'll start with the best. The DJ we booked is well known in Jacksonville. It comforted me that I also knew him growing up through school and mutual friends. His name is Nick Puzo, but he goes by DJ Nick Fresh. He's extremely true to his name. Nick is the kind of DJ that assures you are happy, aware of what to expect, and he's well experienced with not only music selection but also professionalism from his millions of bookings.
We signed contracts and provided a deposit (half of our payment) and we were well on our way to the cha cha slide. Just kidding. But he made everything super easy and always worked around our schedule. This was super helpful to Donald and I because we have opposite work schedules so it's hard enough for him and I alone to meet up, yet Nick was down for any hour any day any location.
Nick had a very important role because not only will he be playing music for the entire wedding, but he also is the announcer and has the job of getting the crowd involved on important moments. Nick didn't let us down one bit. He was on time, professional, charming, and fun to be around. He played exactly what we discussed and even danced quite a bit. He got the entire crowd pumped and yet kept everything very tasteful. We recommend Nick to every and any one who asks. He's amazing. Even if you're not hiring a DJ, hell, just go find him on social media. He's an add you won't regret.
During wedding planning, I worked in a beautiful Skilled Nursing Facility where I was one of two hundred amazing employees (yay no more restaurant!!!). One of my co-workers who schedules all the nursing staff noticed my engagement ring early on. She casually mentioned she has an aunt who does decor on the side for weddings and other large events. I took down her number unsure of whether I would actually call this lady. Four months before the wedding, I called her.
Her aunt was nothing but magical when it came time to talk decor, flowers, seating, and charting. She behaved more as a wedding planner than a decorator. I am grateful for her years of experience because she had a lot of insight to offer. Her name is Marie Tunsil and she is one hard worker. She accompanied me on several trips to Hobby Lobby, Wal-mart, Marshalls, and Michaels. She knew my budget and was accommodating keeping me on track while allowing me to cover all grounds needed. She pointed out things that I wasn't thinking of and really helped everything come together. Most of all she asked me how I felt about every purchase before finalizing. She really made it about me, and that was really nice.
I highly and happily recommend Marie to anyone in search of a crafty decorator who knows how to stay within a budget. She offered ideas, took my rejections, and most of all made me feel comfortable and allowed me to stay on track as to what felt genuine to me. I paid her less than what I feel she truly deserved.
I seem to be on a role of personal hiree's and so it continues. The wonderful man who officiated our wedding is Mr. Carl Harms. I met Carl during my second internship for college in Spring of 2015. I learned he was able to officiate weddings and it was a done deal in my mind. I couldn't think of any other person who was more right for this occasion.
Carl is the kind of man who is genuine, caring, and loves everyone. He became a good friend of mine during my four months at Compassionate Families, and he did an excellent job at our wedding. He helped with our sand ceremony and wrote our entire wedding from his heart. Nothing was cliche or done before, rather words that were simple and true to Donald and I.
Carl met with us a few times to discuss our ideas and get a feel for what we wanted. He was patient and determined to make this wedding special for us. Neither Donald and I cared to include any religious affiliation, so Carl worked hard to personalize our vows. We are forever thankful for Carl, as without him we wouldn't be married. For the record, we love God and included only God in our wedding ceremony as opposed to religion/tradition.
I must humbly brag about the best employee at the Jacksonville Sheraton. Angela was more of a friend than a employee. She went above and beyond to make sure she was available to us during all times. Throughout food tastings, booking hotel rooms for family on a discounted price, to giving me her personal cell number- she was nothing short of amazing. It was obvious this wasn't her first rodeo. Although I personally felt like I bothered her way too many times she only ever responded friendly and excited to each email, text, and phone call.
I have several friends and family who were eager to view the venue months before the wedding. Angela arranged for each and every visit. She was a joy to work with. She not only has tons of knowledge and experience, but she also was helpful giving us advice on which foods to choose and how to stretch our dollar. We paid for the venue in advance, but as some things changed she was the first one to allocate our money to another part of the wedding as it best fit with our permissions.
Angela also kept me up to date with any kinds of changes or potential problems but always offered a solution before approaching us. She is more than just a hotel wedding coordinator, she was a great friend during this extremely stressful process. We can't thank Angela enough!
I am so blessed to have an amazing group of friends with such a variety of talents. Amanda Ray is a dear friend of mine who volunteered to do videography for me. I explained I would like certain parts recorded, yet wasn't able to pay a professional, and Amanda jumped at the chance to help in any way she could. She went and bought equipment, researched, and was nothing short of amazing. I appreciated her doing this so very much as I took her footage, made a video, and watch it monthly. Without her huge favor, I would still forget some parts of that day because they went by soo quickly.
Anyone who is familiar with Florida is well aware of the reputation Publix has. If you are unfortunate and don't know what a Publix is, let me just say it is the top of the mountain....it is the finest of fine... and it's just the cleanest place in the world of grocery. It also has great customer service and a wide variety of vegan and vegetarian options (just saying!) Anyways, their bakery is just one of the few amazing parts of this company.
We knew from the moment we talked cake it was just going to be Publix. Their butter cream frosting and flawless designs are just too hard to say no to. I did ask a few cake artists around town for pricing and it turned out it was about the same in comparison. So we chose Publix for security and quality assurance. It was beautiful and delicious! We kept the top part of the cake because of tradition but I wish I could eat it now. rawr. ALSO NOT PICTURED THE CAKE TOPPER THAT I FORGOT.
*Edit: We did have our one year anniversary and ate the cake...It tasted as fresh as the wedding day!!! We were really surprised!
We kept it simple yet color coordinated. I know I failed to mention earlier, but our wedding colors were champagne, black, and red. Mmm. This cake was the yummiest pretty I ever did eat.
But obviously my dress isn't a rental. So, long story short I made an online friend around 2011-2012 named Yara Yosif. We talked on YouTube and later Instagram and then Facebook. During our talks, she lightly told me she was working on designing Kaftaan style dresses. I always kept this in the back of my mind.
When I was a little girl I never imagined I would marry outside of my culture (hahaha) and so I always envisioned myself wearing red, my favorite color and also very common on Pakistani brides' wedding days.
A little after I got engaged I texted Yara to ask if it would be odd for me to purchase a Kafaan and wear it as a wedding dress.
Next thing I knew, Yara asked me to select which ever one I loved and she gifted it to me. She sent it with no questions asked. Just, out of the kindness of her heart.
I will never forget this. It was so unexpected. To this day we do keep in touch, but I have yet to fly out and meet her! I did invite Yara to the wedding but her brother actually was also getting married the same week, so I missed her.
Yara, you are seriously one of the most hard working and beautiful people. I love watching your business expand and grow. I will always be one of your biggest fans, for many reasons. Thank you for believing in my love story, as you said it. <3
Here's a snap shot of Yara, modeling her own design. Please go follow her to check out her work and keep up to date with the newest Kaftaans. *THEY ARE HAND CRAFTED, PEOPLE*
Originally, I was optimistic and naive and thought "I'll do my own hair and make up!" but, as the months got closer I began to realize this would be a great investment on such a beautiful day. I was searching local artists and found that all the major company-oriented women and men were booked months in advance (duh!) So, my sister found a guy who does amazing work through Instagram. I looked at his previous work and was very impressed.
The artist I chose was Dereon, and he is simply amazing. He did a free trial (which was also nice because other artists charged for this) and he transformed me! I'd never gotten professional make-up done before simply because I didn't care to. I was very pleased with choosing Dereon. He was professional, affordable, and was willing to travel to my house to set up on day of wedding. I would recommend him to anyone looking for hair and make-up services.
This was our fun trial:
Funny story: On the morning of my wedding I accidentally burned my entire face with a cream that I mistakenly thought was for the face. I wasn't reading carefully. Normally, I used this product with no hesitation- but failed to realize the company made two kinds of creams (one for the face and one clearly not). Although this was an unexpected disaster, Dereon calmly saved the day. He didn't flinch once when he showed up to my house and saw my extremely burnt splotchy purple face. I was worried he wouldn't be able to do his magic- but he proved me wrong. He was very caring and knowledgeable of all the products and choices he made.
Wedding Party
We were blessed to have six groomsmen and six bridesmaids for our wedding party. Our friends and family that were a part of our big day really completed the entire ceremony.
Maid of honor
Heather Turner has been my best friend for many, many years. It was no question that she was to be my maid of honor. Heather was dedicated and hella creative. She was committed and promising as she planned my bridal shower and bachlorette party. She put hundreds of her own dollars to ensure I had a beautiful and eventful party on both occasions. She pitched ideas when asked and gave honest feedback when I was unsure. She most importantly had my back during the entire stressful year (while she was living states away), especially when things became heartbreaking and personal at times with my other relationships. Heather is someone I will always trust because I know she genuinely always has my best interest at heart. I love you to the moon, Heather, and I am forever thankful that I get to call you my best friend. Starksy & Hutch forever.
Reena Patel
Reena and I met just a few years back through mutual friends, although it feels as if we've been family forever. She is someone who I believe behaved like a second maid of honor, if there ever was one.
Reena planned my entire henna night for the night before wedding and she did not let me down one bit. I walked into what felt like 'little India' from my little Indian friend. Reena was very helpful during the entire engagement. She accompanied Donald and I on trips to venue hunt and offered multiple tips and ideas. Without Reena's support and love, I don't know who I would run to down the street for wine nights and hookah sessions. Her being a bridesmaid was one that allowed me comfort and confidence knowing she would do anything for me, including participating in all activities with a broken foot! I love you my little book worm.*Edit* Now you are engaged and it's your time to shine! I won't let you down <3
Samantha Stoltman
Sam and I met during our younger (party) years at a mutual friend's house. I instantly liked her because during this Halloween party she was dressed as Pocahontas, the character I typically do, so I knew she had good taste. She was fun and lively and we actually never hung out again until four years later.
Although it took us years to get together, it was all over after our first "alone" hang out. Sam is the most down-to-earth and easy going person I have ever met. She's game to do whatever and she's a lot of fun. We have a mutual love for coffee, hookah, yoga pants, the gym, movies, and so much more. Sam is the friend I continue to have adult sleep overs with even though I thought those days were over once Heather moved out of state. I'm glad I was wrong!
I asked Sam to be a bridesmaid because not only is she dependable, she's also extremely trustworthy. I know I can trust her with my opinions and she will always listen and give honest feedback. Sam was over my house often, so when it came to planning or talking about the same thing for hours she was always happy to give a helping hand. I cherish my friendship with her, because I know she is a person I plan to know forever. She was among the most helpful bridesmaids when it came to taking charge and responsibility during the bachelorette trip to Destin and I am so grateful I didn't have to be in charge of everything. I love you Samuel! *Edit* You are now engaged and everything is reversed! I am so excited to be able to spoil you!!
Catalina Alers-Alers
Cat and I have been friends since high school. After discovering we both were the only two people walking at the first day of cross country, we instantly knew we effed with the other. Cat is the friend who has been there through all stages of my life. She's the girl who understands why I'm finally so awesome now (betch has witnessed some pretttttty low points, lol). At one point we were basically living at the other's house during high school.
Having known Cat since tenth grade, I always imagined my wedding with her being a part of. Other friends came into my life throughout the years and that was great; but Cat was someone solid and consistent who I wanted to share my day with. She's the kind of friend that you don't have to keep in touch with regularly, but when you finally hang out again it is truly as if we didn't miss a beat. During my henna night I remember Cat walking in with cupcakes.....with Donald and I's faces on them!! This move is totally her in the sense that we don't have a relationship where we regularly talk or know what's going on, but when it comes time to show, she delivers. Getting married is a beautiful thing, but knowing you can share that special moment with a friend like Cat who genuinely understands my soul is something irreplaceable. I love you, Prima!
Mehak Rajpoot
Mehak is my youngest sister. From all the relationships between my siblings and I, Mehak is the one who I have the most close of friendships with, so it was no question to have her in my wedding. Although we are 7 years apart, there are rarely any times that I questioned her opinion or advice. She will forever have the biggest piece of my heart, and although we have had a handful of disagreements I know in the end we always come back to each other. Love you forever monkey.
Faridah Abdullah
19 years. I have been friends with Faridah for 19 fucking years!!! I love this girl (clearly).
Faridah is the definition of a life long friend! She's an upfront person. Ever since the beginning Faridah has been blunt and honest with all parts of life. She's a person I admire because she stands up for what is right and for what she believes in. She loves hard and she's so much fun to be around. When others are crying because my emo music is hard to handle and they just want to twerk to some rap music, I can count on Faridah to rock out with me! She gets it.
Any time I've had an idea where I felt the tiny bit of insecurity creep up on me, one phone call to Faridah and suddenly I was the most confident person ever. The way she talks with such belief she could turn a non-believer into a believer. Maybe that is because when she really believes in something or someone, she goes hard. But in all honesty, I love her so much. She's family and I know I'll always have her in my corner. Although Faridah lives in NYC doing big girl things, she was committed to being my bridesmaid. No matter the problem at hand, she found a way to work everything out in order to have me smile and not be bat shit crazy. I love you babe!! You are the only one who can piss me off and make me laugh within the same 5 mins. hahahha.
Marissa Davis
It wouldn't be possible to have had a wedding without one of my sweetest friends, Marissa. Marissa and I met during college and got closer as my wedding party was already selected and in place. Marissa has been nothing short of amazing since I have become friends with her. On our wedding day multiple relatives and friends assumed Marissa was hired help because of how dedicated this betch was running around. She not only lined up the wedding party, she was dodging and ducking cues to make sure things ran smoothly. Did anyone ask her to do this? No. Marissa is someone who simply sees where she can help and she dives in. This is not only true for her friendships, but her career and family as well. I feel lucky to have found such a great friendship so late in life when I naively thought I was done making new friends. Although Marissa had plenty of things that needed her attention at home, she made sure to come drive back to Jacksonville (from Tampa) and be with me for all my wedding festivities. Without Marissa, our wedding day wouldn't have been nearly as smooth as it was. I love you so much my mermaid <3
Honey Moon
We went to a cruise (my first one ever!!!) for our honeymoon. We went to the Bahamas and Key West was our third stop. We went Kayaking which was NOT my idea. I do NOT do water related activities. lol. It was honestly fun, but never again. I just cannot. Donald and I had a blast on our trip and we might do a cruise together again but it's nothing I am dying to do. I am not a cruise girl. We did go on stage during one of the game nights and almost won a newly married game!
Married Life
It has been about four months that I am Mrs. McCloud and it's a wonderful feeling.
(I wrote this blog throughout the months so during that time it was four months whereas now it is eight months)
*Edit: Now it is over one year :)
Donald and I hosted Thanksgiving & Christmas for 2015. It was the perfect way to end a beautiful year. We had both families over, plenty of food, games, gifts and fun. We're unsure of whether this will be a tradition or not but it was the right choice for the past year.
I have been itching to write a blog about my wedding ever since the day I got proposed to. If you're into reading about other people and their love story, you're in for a treat. Here is my wedding story with the proposal, the planning, the review of persons we hired, wedding party and the honeymoon.
The Proposal
One regular ol' Sunday afternoon in May of 2014, I had just gotten off my hectic morning shift from the restaurant, Mimi's Cafe, at the St. John's Town Center. This place is known for brunch, and Sunday mornings are indeed the busiest of the week. Servers make anywhere from $100-$250 during a 6-7 hour shift on these mornings. This particular day I believe I rang in around $200, meaning, I ran around A LOT, kissed ass, sold mimosa's and waffles and smiled straight since 7:00 AM!
I came home to a just-cleaned home (yes!) and found my boyfriend of 6 years asking how my day went. As usual, I looked at him like he was crazy for asking and said "I'm tired as FUCKKKK baaaabe!...Let me shower ..and then let's talk!" He knew this was the routine, so he laughed and said, "ha, okay babe" and I quickly stripped out of my dirty pancake-smelling-all-black-uniform and jumped into the shower before my own smell killed me.
After I got dressed I put a little more effort into getting ready. Not only were we due to meet my family for Sunday dinner, but we also had a mini-date to visit with Donald's cousin, Ben, plus his parents who were all surprisingly in town for a day (They live a few hours away but had an appointment in Jacksonville). Ben comes to visit often, but rarely do his parents join so this meant I had to look a littttle prettier than usual, duh.
The plan was to meet Ben and his parents at Memorial Park. It's actually one of my favorite parks and I'm excited to go there for .. well, anything. We parked, started walking, and Donald got on the phone to tell Ben we arrived. I heard him say, "Yeah man, we're here, where are ya'll?" and as we walked toward the huge statue I saw Donald point behind me and say, "There he goes, there's Ben!" I was eager to see Ben (and his parents) so I turned to where Donald pointed and I saw a bunch of older people and a random Asian lady sitting (random, but, she was cute) and I squinted looking for Ben's smiley face, but saw only strangers, so I turned back around to say I didn't see Ben- but right when I turned I see Donald on his knee in front of the statue!!!!
I didn't know what to think! So many thoughts were racing my mind. "Where the hell is Ben? Why is Donald on his knee? What is he doing? Is this a joke? Is Ben even here? Is anyone about to record this monumental moment? Does this mean we aren't having bbq chicken with my family later? WHAT is going on?!"
Donald began to propose to me as both my hands covered my mouth and my eyes widened. He said his sweet, sincere, proposal to me and I was extremely caught off guard and shocked. (Good job, babe!)
The biggest shock factor wasn't that he's proposing to me- come on, we both knew that was eventually coming! BUT when the hell did he get a ring? and how did he know this one was perfect? We actually openly talked about what rings even were because I've never given a damn about wedding planning or dresses or ring styles (WTF? why do we need options?) I just never cared.
We planned (together) to go ring browsing to not only help him know what I like but also for me to discover what these rings were that all girls seem to have memorized since age 10.
So, imagine my surprise. In my head I'm thinking in a few months we are going "ring browsing" and the whole time this stud muffin already had purchased a ring to propose to me with. Smooth, Donald, real smooth. hehehe. I also kept reminding him throughout our relationship that I really wanted to graduate before I got married. I don't handle stress well, let's be real, so I was looking out for him, haha. My graduation was dated for May 2015 and he popped the question during May 2014. Perfect!
The first thing I said to Donald after he proposed was "Are you serious, is this really happening?! When did this happen? When did you? I can't believe this!" to which he replied, "....is that a yes?" and I laughed and exclaimed, "yes! Yes it is! Yes, .... also did you ... talk to my dad?! Does he know?" Donald laughed and said, "Yes, your dad knows, no one knew it was going to be today, but I talked to him a long time ago. :) " I also want to share, the cute Asian lady was staring at us the entire time. No shame. I wish she had a camera or a cell phone or anything! Jeez! But it's okay :)
I was soo ecstatic. It's hard to surprise me. Mainly because I'm the annoying control freak must know it all AT all times type of person, but also, I always seem to just know everything (at least I thought!)
He surprised me, lied to me (Ben was never in town LOL) and it was the perfect location. Memorial Park is where we shared one of our first anniversaries and it holds a dear place in my heart. (aww barf)
We visited with his mom before our dinner plans. She was the first to hear the big news (in person) and my family was right after. The best reaction has to be my younger sister who choked on her chicken and cried out of joy. I will never forget her reaction, it was the best one.
To celebrate this suddenly exciting Sunday we ended our evening with our favorite things. Family, friends, and hookah. We drove to the best hookah spot in Orange Park, Java's, which is owned by my sister's best friends' parents. The owner, (Uncle) Jimmy, gave us a free bottle of wine and a round of hookah to congratulate us. I was puffin hookah, non-stop smiling, and staring at my finger.
It was the most perfect proposal on the most regular Sunday. I wouldn't go back in time and change a a single thing.
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| Here's the beauty. |
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| One of the first photos I took of my beautiful ring! |
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| This is a great representation of Ben and I. |
Engaged Life
Engagement brought upon a lot of new found experiences. I've obviously never been engaged or proposed to before so unlike my other life expectations this was one that I didn't know anything about. I texted friends and family who weren't able to see me in person before I shared such huge news on social media. To be honest, a handful of responses/lack of responses kind of confused me and made me wonder "WTF?" but I was so overjoyed with this excitement that I didn't pay too much attention to it. Also, friends I had lost touch with were (surprisingly) kind enough to text me once the news was shared on social media with what seemed to be more genuine and filled with love than some people I had texted awaiting replies. All was well though as things worked out how they should.
May 2014 is when Donald asked, and the very next day my crazy summer classes began. I had 5 total courses and 4 were only SIX weeks long. SIX weeks!! I was already tired at the thought. I was also still serving at the restaurant in order to afford all my caffeine and you know, life expenses.
By August I had put together a little bridesmaids 'meet and greet' because I'm weird like that. At the time I had ten bridesmaids. (LOL) I don't know what was wrong with me. Every friend I loved I felt needed to be in the wedding. Bad move. In the end I actually had 6 bridesmaids, so clearly, I need to stop making decision when I'm happy. I just don't think rationally while I'm intoxicated with happiness.
Donald and I had one major focus. The venue. We paid for our entire wedding ourselves, so we had a budget to stick to.
Once we found the venue which ended up being The Sheraton Hotel in Jacksonville, FL we paused on our engagement plans. We didn't have the time to book cakes and DJs and decorators.
We just were happy we had a venue which also catered food and beverages and we sat back, hanging out, allll the way until May 2015. We're pretty cool like that. My graduation was a success and school was over!! (YAY) so after the first week of May, we went insane booking everything and everyone. It was fun, stressful, hard, annoying, nice, and chaotic.
To sum up the year of engagement, I learned a lot. I saw a lot of people's true (selfish) colors. Some individuals will never be able to put aside their own ego for you, the person of honor. And you know what? That's okay (now) I learned a lot and I see many people in different lights. At the same time I learned which friends and family are truly amazing and would do anything just to ensure I am okay. I am forever grateful for these people and as I get older and get busier with new chapters in life, I know which few to keep a little closer. Friends do ultimately become your chosen family.
The Hiree's
- DJ
I'll start with the best. The DJ we booked is well known in Jacksonville. It comforted me that I also knew him growing up through school and mutual friends. His name is Nick Puzo, but he goes by DJ Nick Fresh. He's extremely true to his name. Nick is the kind of DJ that assures you are happy, aware of what to expect, and he's well experienced with not only music selection but also professionalism from his millions of bookings.
We signed contracts and provided a deposit (half of our payment) and we were well on our way to the cha cha slide. Just kidding. But he made everything super easy and always worked around our schedule. This was super helpful to Donald and I because we have opposite work schedules so it's hard enough for him and I alone to meet up, yet Nick was down for any hour any day any location.
Nick had a very important role because not only will he be playing music for the entire wedding, but he also is the announcer and has the job of getting the crowd involved on important moments. Nick didn't let us down one bit. He was on time, professional, charming, and fun to be around. He played exactly what we discussed and even danced quite a bit. He got the entire crowd pumped and yet kept everything very tasteful. We recommend Nick to every and any one who asks. He's amazing. Even if you're not hiring a DJ, hell, just go find him on social media. He's an add you won't regret.
- Decorator
During wedding planning, I worked in a beautiful Skilled Nursing Facility where I was one of two hundred amazing employees (yay no more restaurant!!!). One of my co-workers who schedules all the nursing staff noticed my engagement ring early on. She casually mentioned she has an aunt who does decor on the side for weddings and other large events. I took down her number unsure of whether I would actually call this lady. Four months before the wedding, I called her.
Her aunt was nothing but magical when it came time to talk decor, flowers, seating, and charting. She behaved more as a wedding planner than a decorator. I am grateful for her years of experience because she had a lot of insight to offer. Her name is Marie Tunsil and she is one hard worker. She accompanied me on several trips to Hobby Lobby, Wal-mart, Marshalls, and Michaels. She knew my budget and was accommodating keeping me on track while allowing me to cover all grounds needed. She pointed out things that I wasn't thinking of and really helped everything come together. Most of all she asked me how I felt about every purchase before finalizing. She really made it about me, and that was really nice.
I highly and happily recommend Marie to anyone in search of a crafty decorator who knows how to stay within a budget. She offered ideas, took my rejections, and most of all made me feel comfortable and allowed me to stay on track as to what felt genuine to me. I paid her less than what I feel she truly deserved.
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| Marie is the woman on the right. |
- Officiator
I seem to be on a role of personal hiree's and so it continues. The wonderful man who officiated our wedding is Mr. Carl Harms. I met Carl during my second internship for college in Spring of 2015. I learned he was able to officiate weddings and it was a done deal in my mind. I couldn't think of any other person who was more right for this occasion.
Carl is the kind of man who is genuine, caring, and loves everyone. He became a good friend of mine during my four months at Compassionate Families, and he did an excellent job at our wedding. He helped with our sand ceremony and wrote our entire wedding from his heart. Nothing was cliche or done before, rather words that were simple and true to Donald and I.
Carl met with us a few times to discuss our ideas and get a feel for what we wanted. He was patient and determined to make this wedding special for us. Neither Donald and I cared to include any religious affiliation, so Carl worked hard to personalize our vows. We are forever thankful for Carl, as without him we wouldn't be married. For the record, we love God and included only God in our wedding ceremony as opposed to religion/tradition.
- Angela, Wedding Coordinator
I must humbly brag about the best employee at the Jacksonville Sheraton. Angela was more of a friend than a employee. She went above and beyond to make sure she was available to us during all times. Throughout food tastings, booking hotel rooms for family on a discounted price, to giving me her personal cell number- she was nothing short of amazing. It was obvious this wasn't her first rodeo. Although I personally felt like I bothered her way too many times she only ever responded friendly and excited to each email, text, and phone call.
I have several friends and family who were eager to view the venue months before the wedding. Angela arranged for each and every visit. She was a joy to work with. She not only has tons of knowledge and experience, but she also was helpful giving us advice on which foods to choose and how to stretch our dollar. We paid for the venue in advance, but as some things changed she was the first one to allocate our money to another part of the wedding as it best fit with our permissions.
Angela also kept me up to date with any kinds of changes or potential problems but always offered a solution before approaching us. She is more than just a hotel wedding coordinator, she was a great friend during this extremely stressful process. We can't thank Angela enough!
- Videographer
I am so blessed to have an amazing group of friends with such a variety of talents. Amanda Ray is a dear friend of mine who volunteered to do videography for me. I explained I would like certain parts recorded, yet wasn't able to pay a professional, and Amanda jumped at the chance to help in any way she could. She went and bought equipment, researched, and was nothing short of amazing. I appreciated her doing this so very much as I took her footage, made a video, and watch it monthly. Without her huge favor, I would still forget some parts of that day because they went by soo quickly.
- Publix, Cake
Anyone who is familiar with Florida is well aware of the reputation Publix has. If you are unfortunate and don't know what a Publix is, let me just say it is the top of the mountain....it is the finest of fine... and it's just the cleanest place in the world of grocery. It also has great customer service and a wide variety of vegan and vegetarian options (just saying!) Anyways, their bakery is just one of the few amazing parts of this company.
We knew from the moment we talked cake it was just going to be Publix. Their butter cream frosting and flawless designs are just too hard to say no to. I did ask a few cake artists around town for pricing and it turned out it was about the same in comparison. So we chose Publix for security and quality assurance. It was beautiful and delicious! We kept the top part of the cake because of tradition but I wish I could eat it now. rawr. ALSO NOT PICTURED THE CAKE TOPPER THAT I FORGOT.
*Edit: We did have our one year anniversary and ate the cake...It tasted as fresh as the wedding day!!! We were really surprised!
We kept it simple yet color coordinated. I know I failed to mention earlier, but our wedding colors were champagne, black, and red. Mmm. This cake was the yummiest pretty I ever did eat.
- Wedding Dress
But obviously my dress isn't a rental. So, long story short I made an online friend around 2011-2012 named Yara Yosif. We talked on YouTube and later Instagram and then Facebook. During our talks, she lightly told me she was working on designing Kaftaan style dresses. I always kept this in the back of my mind.
When I was a little girl I never imagined I would marry outside of my culture (hahaha) and so I always envisioned myself wearing red, my favorite color and also very common on Pakistani brides' wedding days.
A little after I got engaged I texted Yara to ask if it would be odd for me to purchase a Kafaan and wear it as a wedding dress.
Next thing I knew, Yara asked me to select which ever one I loved and she gifted it to me. She sent it with no questions asked. Just, out of the kindness of her heart.
I will never forget this. It was so unexpected. To this day we do keep in touch, but I have yet to fly out and meet her! I did invite Yara to the wedding but her brother actually was also getting married the same week, so I missed her.
Yara, you are seriously one of the most hard working and beautiful people. I love watching your business expand and grow. I will always be one of your biggest fans, for many reasons. Thank you for believing in my love story, as you said it. <3
Here's a snap shot of Yara, modeling her own design. Please go follow her to check out her work and keep up to date with the newest Kaftaans. *THEY ARE HAND CRAFTED, PEOPLE*
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| Taken from Yara's Instagram. GO FOLLOW!!!!! |
- Photographer
- Make Up & Hair
Originally, I was optimistic and naive and thought "I'll do my own hair and make up!" but, as the months got closer I began to realize this would be a great investment on such a beautiful day. I was searching local artists and found that all the major company-oriented women and men were booked months in advance (duh!) So, my sister found a guy who does amazing work through Instagram. I looked at his previous work and was very impressed.
The artist I chose was Dereon, and he is simply amazing. He did a free trial (which was also nice because other artists charged for this) and he transformed me! I'd never gotten professional make-up done before simply because I didn't care to. I was very pleased with choosing Dereon. He was professional, affordable, and was willing to travel to my house to set up on day of wedding. I would recommend him to anyone looking for hair and make-up services.
This was our fun trial:
Funny story: On the morning of my wedding I accidentally burned my entire face with a cream that I mistakenly thought was for the face. I wasn't reading carefully. Normally, I used this product with no hesitation- but failed to realize the company made two kinds of creams (one for the face and one clearly not). Although this was an unexpected disaster, Dereon calmly saved the day. He didn't flinch once when he showed up to my house and saw my extremely burnt splotchy purple face. I was worried he wouldn't be able to do his magic- but he proved me wrong. He was very caring and knowledgeable of all the products and choices he made.
Wedding Party
We were blessed to have six groomsmen and six bridesmaids for our wedding party. Our friends and family that were a part of our big day really completed the entire ceremony.
Maid of honor
Heather Turner has been my best friend for many, many years. It was no question that she was to be my maid of honor. Heather was dedicated and hella creative. She was committed and promising as she planned my bridal shower and bachlorette party. She put hundreds of her own dollars to ensure I had a beautiful and eventful party on both occasions. She pitched ideas when asked and gave honest feedback when I was unsure. She most importantly had my back during the entire stressful year (while she was living states away), especially when things became heartbreaking and personal at times with my other relationships. Heather is someone I will always trust because I know she genuinely always has my best interest at heart. I love you to the moon, Heather, and I am forever thankful that I get to call you my best friend. Starksy & Hutch forever.
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| September 2015 |
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| August 2013 |
Reena Patel
Reena and I met just a few years back through mutual friends, although it feels as if we've been family forever. She is someone who I believe behaved like a second maid of honor, if there ever was one.
Reena planned my entire henna night for the night before wedding and she did not let me down one bit. I walked into what felt like 'little India' from my little Indian friend. Reena was very helpful during the entire engagement. She accompanied Donald and I on trips to venue hunt and offered multiple tips and ideas. Without Reena's support and love, I don't know who I would run to down the street for wine nights and hookah sessions. Her being a bridesmaid was one that allowed me comfort and confidence knowing she would do anything for me, including participating in all activities with a broken foot! I love you my little book worm.*Edit* Now you are engaged and it's your time to shine! I won't let you down <3
Samantha Stoltman
Sam and I met during our younger (party) years at a mutual friend's house. I instantly liked her because during this Halloween party she was dressed as Pocahontas, the character I typically do, so I knew she had good taste. She was fun and lively and we actually never hung out again until four years later.
Although it took us years to get together, it was all over after our first "alone" hang out. Sam is the most down-to-earth and easy going person I have ever met. She's game to do whatever and she's a lot of fun. We have a mutual love for coffee, hookah, yoga pants, the gym, movies, and so much more. Sam is the friend I continue to have adult sleep overs with even though I thought those days were over once Heather moved out of state. I'm glad I was wrong!
I asked Sam to be a bridesmaid because not only is she dependable, she's also extremely trustworthy. I know I can trust her with my opinions and she will always listen and give honest feedback. Sam was over my house often, so when it came to planning or talking about the same thing for hours she was always happy to give a helping hand. I cherish my friendship with her, because I know she is a person I plan to know forever. She was among the most helpful bridesmaids when it came to taking charge and responsibility during the bachelorette trip to Destin and I am so grateful I didn't have to be in charge of everything. I love you Samuel! *Edit* You are now engaged and everything is reversed! I am so excited to be able to spoil you!!
Catalina Alers-Alers
Cat and I have been friends since high school. After discovering we both were the only two people walking at the first day of cross country, we instantly knew we effed with the other. Cat is the friend who has been there through all stages of my life. She's the girl who understands why I'm finally so awesome now (betch has witnessed some pretttttty low points, lol). At one point we were basically living at the other's house during high school.
Having known Cat since tenth grade, I always imagined my wedding with her being a part of. Other friends came into my life throughout the years and that was great; but Cat was someone solid and consistent who I wanted to share my day with. She's the kind of friend that you don't have to keep in touch with regularly, but when you finally hang out again it is truly as if we didn't miss a beat. During my henna night I remember Cat walking in with cupcakes.....with Donald and I's faces on them!! This move is totally her in the sense that we don't have a relationship where we regularly talk or know what's going on, but when it comes time to show, she delivers. Getting married is a beautiful thing, but knowing you can share that special moment with a friend like Cat who genuinely understands my soul is something irreplaceable. I love you, Prima!
Mehak Rajpoot
Mehak is my youngest sister. From all the relationships between my siblings and I, Mehak is the one who I have the most close of friendships with, so it was no question to have her in my wedding. Although we are 7 years apart, there are rarely any times that I questioned her opinion or advice. She will forever have the biggest piece of my heart, and although we have had a handful of disagreements I know in the end we always come back to each other. Love you forever monkey.
Faridah Abdullah
19 years. I have been friends with Faridah for 19 fucking years!!! I love this girl (clearly).
Faridah is the definition of a life long friend! She's an upfront person. Ever since the beginning Faridah has been blunt and honest with all parts of life. She's a person I admire because she stands up for what is right and for what she believes in. She loves hard and she's so much fun to be around. When others are crying because my emo music is hard to handle and they just want to twerk to some rap music, I can count on Faridah to rock out with me! She gets it.
Any time I've had an idea where I felt the tiny bit of insecurity creep up on me, one phone call to Faridah and suddenly I was the most confident person ever. The way she talks with such belief she could turn a non-believer into a believer. Maybe that is because when she really believes in something or someone, she goes hard. But in all honesty, I love her so much. She's family and I know I'll always have her in my corner. Although Faridah lives in NYC doing big girl things, she was committed to being my bridesmaid. No matter the problem at hand, she found a way to work everything out in order to have me smile and not be bat shit crazy. I love you babe!! You are the only one who can piss me off and make me laugh within the same 5 mins. hahahha.
Marissa Davis
It wouldn't be possible to have had a wedding without one of my sweetest friends, Marissa. Marissa and I met during college and got closer as my wedding party was already selected and in place. Marissa has been nothing short of amazing since I have become friends with her. On our wedding day multiple relatives and friends assumed Marissa was hired help because of how dedicated this betch was running around. She not only lined up the wedding party, she was dodging and ducking cues to make sure things ran smoothly. Did anyone ask her to do this? No. Marissa is someone who simply sees where she can help and she dives in. This is not only true for her friendships, but her career and family as well. I feel lucky to have found such a great friendship so late in life when I naively thought I was done making new friends. Although Marissa had plenty of things that needed her attention at home, she made sure to come drive back to Jacksonville (from Tampa) and be with me for all my wedding festivities. Without Marissa, our wedding day wouldn't have been nearly as smooth as it was. I love you so much my mermaid <3
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| SHE TOOK ME TO SEE T SWIFT. |
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| Our Graduation Day :) |
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| at Marissa's baby shower 12-16-16<3 |
We went to a cruise (my first one ever!!!) for our honeymoon. We went to the Bahamas and Key West was our third stop. We went Kayaking which was NOT my idea. I do NOT do water related activities. lol. It was honestly fun, but never again. I just cannot. Donald and I had a blast on our trip and we might do a cruise together again but it's nothing I am dying to do. I am not a cruise girl. We did go on stage during one of the game nights and almost won a newly married game!
Typical for us, we made friends on the cruise who lived close to home! We still talk and see each other to this day :)
Married Life
It has been about four months that I am Mrs. McCloud and it's a wonderful feeling.
(I wrote this blog throughout the months so during that time it was four months whereas now it is eight months)
*Edit: Now it is over one year :)
Donald and I hosted Thanksgiving & Christmas for 2015. It was the perfect way to end a beautiful year. We had both families over, plenty of food, games, gifts and fun. We're unsure of whether this will be a tradition or not but it was the right choice for the past year.
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| Thanksgiving 2015 |
Donald and I agree that marriage is a partnership where we don't lose our individual identities I love my husband for so many reasons, but the biggest has to be that he allows me to be myself and he's incredibly supportive of all my endeavors. I know I married my best friend so at the end of each day I get to have a sleepover with my lover and bestie.
Thank you for reading about our journey of the chaotic yet exciting 2015. We hope to make some huge announcements in 2016. Our lives have officially merged (legally) and I am so proud to be a McCloud :)
*Edit: 2016 came and went and I just NOW am posting this blog, lol. Our huge announcement was purchasing our first home! We became home owners in June 2016. We also celebrated our first one year wedding anniversary by revisiting Key West. We are still learning things about each other 8 years later and we love it. We hosted Thanksgiving 2016 and decided to never host again due to my lower back issues. We are staying low-key from here on out! We have been asked to be in our beautiful friends' wedding (Eric & Reena) and two of our closest friends are expecting their first child (both boys!) Heather & David Turner / Marissa & Ben Davis. I also became an aunt!!!! A lot has happened and changed in 2016 but we are so happy to take on the changes together.
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| Our home <3 |
*EDIT EDIT* haha so now it's 2017, I am just now actually FINISHING this freaking long ass blog. Sooooo, my best friend Heather had her baby boy Peyton on March 8 and Marissa had her baby boy, Max on February 10!!! umm tomorrow Donald and I celebrate our 2 years married. We don't have any large announcements right now. We look forward to NOT hosting holidays this year and to keep on livin' ;)
Love you, Donald <3 here's to many moreeeee.
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