Supporting doesn't mean agreeing...

Supporting someone does NOT mean you must agree..

A common misconception in friendships and relationships....If I support you, I have to agree with you, and then I am being fake because I really do not agree...

Who said you had to agree with the person? YOU DON'T! You...DON'T!

You can support someone you love/care about and still not agree with what they are choosing to do. Support is simply you being there regardless of what happens...You believing in them, that they will in fact do their best and that is all they can do...You being there at the end whether it worked or failed...You will not say "haha, told you so" in case the plans don't go accordingly....support is many things..but it's not agreeing.

How can you support someone and not agree? Well, it's easy! For example. Your best friend or sister [female] just decided she wants to be a stripper...You are very against this because of your personal/religious/whatever belief/morality.

So, do you say "if you go through with this I can never speak to you again?"

NO! Why? Why give them an ultimatum? That's just selfish.

Instead, you can admit that you don't think this is the right choice/best choice [but regardless this person IS going to do it], so whether you are there or not, you're the one who will be left...the person will figure out their own path with or without you, so my point is, if you love them just be there for them and go through the path with them. or, be left behind.

If you know you for whatever reason are unable to travel this path with them because you just can't do it then just be honest and upfront. Don't slowly ditch them, just tell them the truth or clarify that you want no part in this journey and perhaps you two can never speak of it when you are together.

Mostly this problem occurs in families/parents versus kids.

So remember, next time someone you love is deciding to do something you wish they rather not, don’t just brush them off/their idea off, just tell them you support them but maybe don’t want to participate. :)

If you love this person then ultimately you want to see them happy and if this path (whatever they are choosing) seems to make them think that it will make them happy, then just be there for them! <3 It doesn't mean you have to go jump on their path and be exactly next to them!

-ssr