Abusers
The reason many do not know that someone is an abuser is because there is no tag worn when someone has a personality to be abusive. The woman or man in a relationship being abused are typically the only ones at first who witness it, until they reach out and finally tell their friends or family.
So, as a stranger, how do you know? Do you know? Will you ever know? The man or woman in a nice outfit with that bright smile who gets their non-fat grande latte every morning you wave at could very well be a man or woman who is suffering on the inside, having anger problems, and is unable to have the confidence or courage to reach out for help. They are the abuser.
Everyone knows him or her as a popular, loveable, handsome/beautiful, rich, outgoing and basically quote on quote, perfect.
When and if you ever witness a small sign of someone having an anger issue, do not take it lightly. Yelling and easily frustrated are the top two signs of someone who has an abusive/unstable personality. There is help out there, and methods to change this reactant behavior. However, unless the person themselves is not willing to get help-The personality will remain unkind. The abuser is easily loved and trusted by fellow employees and friends, because he or she knows how to make themselves look to others. They have a nice reputation to up hold and they will sometimes have this as a back up when someone claims to have a problem with said person. "No way! She/he is always so nice and wouldn’t hurt a fly!" is the most common reaction when someone is exposed finally, and light is shed in a negative direction. The person can have a thousand positive reviews, but if even one child or person is claiming the opposite, its worth listening to or at the least looking into.
If you are someone who knows someone that has anger issues and problems with handling upsetting situations, let them know you are someone they can confind in and trust, so that hopefully they can steer into the right direction and get help. If you witness it over and over and this person does not care to seek help or even admit there is a problem, it is wise to stay far away from this person, regardless of your relationship status. Family, lover, friend, it doesn’t matter. You will one day be the victim, if you allow yourself to remain in this kind of person’s life. Verbal abuse is still abuse.
Recently, I witnessed something that really broke my heart into pieces. Names will not be provided. Someone I trusted and love betrayed my trust tonight and hurt an innocent animal. Kicking a dog is not disciplining. If a dog is barking "for no reason" or causing annoyance, you have options to put it outside, put it in the cage, put it into a room for a bit, or simply, leave. Never hit an animal out of anger. It is unfair and unforgiveable. There is no kind of defense or justification for anyone who out of anger hurts their pet, or worse, someone else’s.
I would offer to give this person help or guidance, but seeing as this person already lost one pet due to accidental injuries….its quite clear they are not hesitant when it comes to almost repeating the process. One funeral was not enough apparently. Intentions are worth nothing when you hurt an innocent child or animal. "I didn’t mean to…. I thought it was just going to be a lil kick…I didnt realize they would die..." Doesn’t mean shit. And then on top of that if the person is unapologetic AND trying to justify their reason for the action, it’s kind of a no hope situation. I say fuck you, to that person, because they genuinely need anger management and help. I just wont be there to guide them or care enough to try.
Don’t hurt others because YOU have problems. Youre a selfish person who deserves no pets or future kids. I cant imagine if your future baby cries all night what you may do "because you couldn’t take it anymore."
That is all, readers.
-ssr
So, as a stranger, how do you know? Do you know? Will you ever know? The man or woman in a nice outfit with that bright smile who gets their non-fat grande latte every morning you wave at could very well be a man or woman who is suffering on the inside, having anger problems, and is unable to have the confidence or courage to reach out for help. They are the abuser.
Everyone knows him or her as a popular, loveable, handsome/beautiful, rich, outgoing and basically quote on quote, perfect.
When and if you ever witness a small sign of someone having an anger issue, do not take it lightly. Yelling and easily frustrated are the top two signs of someone who has an abusive/unstable personality. There is help out there, and methods to change this reactant behavior. However, unless the person themselves is not willing to get help-The personality will remain unkind. The abuser is easily loved and trusted by fellow employees and friends, because he or she knows how to make themselves look to others. They have a nice reputation to up hold and they will sometimes have this as a back up when someone claims to have a problem with said person. "No way! She/he is always so nice and wouldn’t hurt a fly!" is the most common reaction when someone is exposed finally, and light is shed in a negative direction. The person can have a thousand positive reviews, but if even one child or person is claiming the opposite, its worth listening to or at the least looking into.
If you are someone who knows someone that has anger issues and problems with handling upsetting situations, let them know you are someone they can confind in and trust, so that hopefully they can steer into the right direction and get help. If you witness it over and over and this person does not care to seek help or even admit there is a problem, it is wise to stay far away from this person, regardless of your relationship status. Family, lover, friend, it doesn’t matter. You will one day be the victim, if you allow yourself to remain in this kind of person’s life. Verbal abuse is still abuse.
Recently, I witnessed something that really broke my heart into pieces. Names will not be provided. Someone I trusted and love betrayed my trust tonight and hurt an innocent animal. Kicking a dog is not disciplining. If a dog is barking "for no reason" or causing annoyance, you have options to put it outside, put it in the cage, put it into a room for a bit, or simply, leave. Never hit an animal out of anger. It is unfair and unforgiveable. There is no kind of defense or justification for anyone who out of anger hurts their pet, or worse, someone else’s.
I would offer to give this person help or guidance, but seeing as this person already lost one pet due to accidental injuries….its quite clear they are not hesitant when it comes to almost repeating the process. One funeral was not enough apparently. Intentions are worth nothing when you hurt an innocent child or animal. "I didn’t mean to…. I thought it was just going to be a lil kick…I didnt realize they would die..." Doesn’t mean shit. And then on top of that if the person is unapologetic AND trying to justify their reason for the action, it’s kind of a no hope situation. I say fuck you, to that person, because they genuinely need anger management and help. I just wont be there to guide them or care enough to try.
Don’t hurt others because YOU have problems. Youre a selfish person who deserves no pets or future kids. I cant imagine if your future baby cries all night what you may do "because you couldn’t take it anymore."
That is all, readers.
-ssr
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