Masturbation-nothing to be ashamed of!
When I was growing up there were certain words that were never said in our house....Boyfriend, Dating, Sex, Girlfriend, Sex, SEX SEX even "sexy" was considered a BAD WORD! But this isn't unusual for Pakistani or Muslim households. My generation (at least the people I know) relate to these kinds of stories.
I have two sisters and we like sleeping in shorts, but if our brother or dad were home, even that was considered offensive and 'disrespectful' because we are taught to cover our bodies and save our beauty only for our future husbands. Women are seen as sacred and beautiful and modest and should not be 'flaunting' their bodies or beauty. Shorts? I always thought my parents were crazy. But as I grew older I understood they did the best they knew and it all made sense in the end. Now? All the girls in my house run around in basically sleep ware 24/7 and it's the norm. As we grew, my parents grew too. :)
Now for the big topic. MASTURBATION! Someone please tell me why the hell it is so frowned up in certain households/cultures/religions/places? There is NOTHING wrong with touching yourself! In fact, You should touch yourself.
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Why? because if you are uncomfortable or uneducated about your own body, how can you expect someone you trust and love one day to be comfortable with it, or know how to please you? You do have to know things and there's nothing wrong with finding them out. It can be a journey for you and yourself alone.
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Also, in certain places sex and related things are frowned upon outside of marriage or engagements. If this could help someone extend their promise to God or themselves, why not do so? Why be ashamed?
Our bodies are like machines, And sometimes you need to be your own repairman. It's not embarrassing, it's not scary, it's not shameful. We all have the same needs. You might even learn things about yourself that you did not know before. Less stressed, happier, loving towards your body. You have to love yourself and give yourself time. Don't abandon nature.
See, you could be stressed like this:
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and then go have some private time with yourself and become......
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Some people do masturbate and don't talk about it. That's fine, too. You don't have to yell it to the world or write a status about it. I'm just writing this to help people who don't even do it because they think it's wrong or embarrassing or whatever else they are feeling. STOP! and do it. But don't hurt yourself, take your time and be in a trusting environment and make sure you are relaxed.
If you're just freaking out and insecure and scared you should prolly get your own place... Just sayin!
Note: These are just my thoughts. If you disagree, I'm sure you have a valid rea-- No, you should prolly just go do it and it may change your life! Haha, I kid.
-ssr
I have two sisters and we like sleeping in shorts, but if our brother or dad were home, even that was considered offensive and 'disrespectful' because we are taught to cover our bodies and save our beauty only for our future husbands. Women are seen as sacred and beautiful and modest and should not be 'flaunting' their bodies or beauty. Shorts? I always thought my parents were crazy. But as I grew older I understood they did the best they knew and it all made sense in the end. Now? All the girls in my house run around in basically sleep ware 24/7 and it's the norm. As we grew, my parents grew too. :)
Now for the big topic. MASTURBATION! Someone please tell me why the hell it is so frowned up in certain households/cultures/religions/places? There is NOTHING wrong with touching yourself! In fact, You should touch yourself.
Why? because if you are uncomfortable or uneducated about your own body, how can you expect someone you trust and love one day to be comfortable with it, or know how to please you? You do have to know things and there's nothing wrong with finding them out. It can be a journey for you and yourself alone.
Also, in certain places sex and related things are frowned upon outside of marriage or engagements. If this could help someone extend their promise to God or themselves, why not do so? Why be ashamed?
Our bodies are like machines, And sometimes you need to be your own repairman. It's not embarrassing, it's not scary, it's not shameful. We all have the same needs. You might even learn things about yourself that you did not know before. Less stressed, happier, loving towards your body. You have to love yourself and give yourself time. Don't abandon nature.
See, you could be stressed like this:
and then go have some private time with yourself and become......
Some people do masturbate and don't talk about it. That's fine, too. You don't have to yell it to the world or write a status about it. I'm just writing this to help people who don't even do it because they think it's wrong or embarrassing or whatever else they are feeling. STOP! and do it. But don't hurt yourself, take your time and be in a trusting environment and make sure you are relaxed.
If you're just freaking out and insecure and scared you should prolly get your own place... Just sayin!
Note: These are just my thoughts. If you disagree, I'm sure you have a valid rea-- No, you should prolly just go do it and it may change your life! Haha, I kid.
-ssr
Well.., I'm not gonna get into the specifics of this one(too much info and not enough booze). I'll just say to remember the other M word: Moderation.
ReplyDelete:) "Our bodies are like machines, And sometimes you need to be your own repairman." Awesome.
ReplyDeleteand that's an original SUMAIRA quote, too! :)
ReplyDeleteSumaria! When I saw the title to this blog I could not help but to LOL. I commend your openness to this topic because I know I would be way too shy to post this myself. However, since you broke the ice, I’ll be glad to participate in the topic, lol.
ReplyDeleteIn high school, I took a nursing class and one day we watched a video that had to do with the many different situations doctors and nurses see in hospitals. One of the situations was a baby girl who had put the leg of a barbie in her vagina and the shoe of the doll got stuck inside of her. Her parents took her to the doctor and were obviously horrified. The doctor explained to them that babies (girls and boys) will play with themselves because it feels good and it calms them down. He said that it is normal and there was nothing for them to be concerned about.
My point in sharing that is: if masturbating is normal for babies, then how is it that it becomes such a taboo as we get older?
What I think, and this is certainly not an original thought and comes from different things I have read, is that it starts with men trying to control women. Men were once allowed to marry many women while women could only marry one man. In fact, women were preferred to be virgins. I guess this is because we guys have big egos and God forbid if we had to compete with any other guys in the bed, lol. So along the way anything that had to do with sexual pleasure was made out to be wrong; such as masturbation. Experiencing self-pleasure could lead to the curiosity and temptation of experiencing sex. At some point these taboos found its way into church, which was genius because if you can convince people that sexual pleasure is a sin then the fear of disappointing God is a sure way to keep people under control. I mean, who wants to go to hell for rubbing one off (sorry I had to). Now I’m not entirely sure if these taboos originated from man or the church (or both at the same time) or how unwedded sex and masturbation became “sinful” to all and not just woman, but I think I’m pointing in the right direction. Bottom line is: masturbation sparks temptation for sex and sex is bad, especially for woman because guys do not want “damaged goods,” haha.
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