The big D's..........Death & Divorce
Someone I respect once told me that death and divorce can and will change a person. In my experiences, I know this to be true. Death can devastate anyone....but what I wanted to focus on is that it doesn't have to be permanent. I know it's easier said than done, but it's possible. Time heals everything.
Divorce is scary! ....it's a promise that is being broken. If kids are involved it is painful. So why is the percentage so high in our nation? I can think of a few reasons ...
1) Getting married for the wrong reason
2) Not knowing the partner enough before committing
3) Committing before being compatible *mentioned before
4) Hopeful that the marriage will solve a problem
5) Feeling that only marriage proves commitment
6) Insecurity
7) Believing that marriage takes away being lonely
8) Gold digging
9) False beliefs
10) Marrying someone to make parentals happy
11) Not following your instinct
I know there are millions more reasons, but those come to mind first. I wish young people would open their eyes and stop feeling that one month is all you need before you go get married/live together. Getting married straight out of high school looks cute but it doesn't always last. You should love yourself first and know yourself fully before you accept another person into your life FOREVER. Plus, you change from eighteen to twenty five....And if you don't even know how you'll change then how can someone else already commit to that? I know there's about two rebuttals right there, but think realistically and statistically.
It's so hard to fully accept someone and remain committed. Everyday a new situation will arise and you have to honestly be in the relationship 100% . Not only YOU but make sure your partner is also committed just as much as you are. And if they want to leave, LET THEM GO. Don't ever convince someone to stay with you. If they do stay, they are only doing that so they do not hurt YOU. They don't actually genuinely WANT to stay...So why would you want that anyway? Do yourself a favor and listen to your gut!
Death.........Is such a sensitive topic. Especially for all the people who have lost a loved one. I want to go ahead and say if you have ever lost someone close to you or even just a friend or co-worker or neighbor, I am very sorry for your loss because I do know what it feels like. <3
Never stop living your own life just because someone you loved is no longer physically here. I say physically because I believe they are always always always going to remain in our heart. The unbearable pain you face is tragic and unfair but there is a reason and plan for everything and everyone. The reason may not be clear or understood (yet) but there is one and in the end, you do become stronger from all you go through.
"God does not place a burden on a soul which the soul cannot bare" -Quran 116
The harder and more painful something is, the stronger we become. Don't ever forget that. The D's are tough....but you are tougher.
"It all works out in the end...and if doesn't, then it's not the end"
"We don't so much change. We become more ourselves everyday" -Unknown
Oh and one last thing, I am pro-choice and I do believe divorce sometimes is the best choice (even though it can be sad). I just think sometimes the whole situation could have been avoided or prevented but if it's needed definietly go through the process and be on your way to a happier life. If you aren't happy, a lot of other things will not fall into place, either.
-ssr
Divorce is scary! ....it's a promise that is being broken. If kids are involved it is painful. So why is the percentage so high in our nation? I can think of a few reasons ...
1) Getting married for the wrong reason
2) Not knowing the partner enough before committing
3) Committing before being compatible *mentioned before
4) Hopeful that the marriage will solve a problem
5) Feeling that only marriage proves commitment
6) Insecurity
7) Believing that marriage takes away being lonely
8) Gold digging
9) False beliefs
10) Marrying someone to make parentals happy
11) Not following your instinct
I know there are millions more reasons, but those come to mind first. I wish young people would open their eyes and stop feeling that one month is all you need before you go get married/live together. Getting married straight out of high school looks cute but it doesn't always last. You should love yourself first and know yourself fully before you accept another person into your life FOREVER. Plus, you change from eighteen to twenty five....And if you don't even know how you'll change then how can someone else already commit to that? I know there's about two rebuttals right there, but think realistically and statistically.
It's so hard to fully accept someone and remain committed. Everyday a new situation will arise and you have to honestly be in the relationship 100% . Not only YOU but make sure your partner is also committed just as much as you are. And if they want to leave, LET THEM GO. Don't ever convince someone to stay with you. If they do stay, they are only doing that so they do not hurt YOU. They don't actually genuinely WANT to stay...So why would you want that anyway? Do yourself a favor and listen to your gut!
Death.........Is such a sensitive topic. Especially for all the people who have lost a loved one. I want to go ahead and say if you have ever lost someone close to you or even just a friend or co-worker or neighbor, I am very sorry for your loss because I do know what it feels like. <3
Never stop living your own life just because someone you loved is no longer physically here. I say physically because I believe they are always always always going to remain in our heart. The unbearable pain you face is tragic and unfair but there is a reason and plan for everything and everyone. The reason may not be clear or understood (yet) but there is one and in the end, you do become stronger from all you go through.
"God does not place a burden on a soul which the soul cannot bare" -Quran 116
The harder and more painful something is, the stronger we become. Don't ever forget that. The D's are tough....but you are tougher.
"It all works out in the end...and if doesn't, then it's not the end"
"We don't so much change. We become more ourselves everyday" -Unknown
Oh and one last thing, I am pro-choice and I do believe divorce sometimes is the best choice (even though it can be sad). I just think sometimes the whole situation could have been avoided or prevented but if it's needed definietly go through the process and be on your way to a happier life. If you aren't happy, a lot of other things will not fall into place, either.
-ssr
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