Toxic enviornment? GET THE FUCK OUT.
If you live in a place with people you love, but are constantly hurting you or pissing you off, you must remove yourself from the enviorment. It could be family, boyfriend/girlfriend, friends, cousins, whatever the living situation is, you must leave if you find yourself constantly being in a bad mood or bad company. If you're married, that's a whole different blog, but you should consider how to fix the marriage and so on with that situation.
How do you know if you're enviorment is considered toxic? I'll give a few examples.
Toxic doesn't mean someone is intentionally always putting you down or pissing you off. It can be from personalities clashing and leading to verbal abuse/fights, it could be two different opinions and one person's unwilling to settle on the agree to disagree method, it could be constant harassment on getting a job, or changing a job, or changing something about yourself, it could be constant reminding of what to do and how to do it. If you're under the age of eighteen, stop reading, because none of this will apply to you.
Sometimes it's parents, sometimes it's siblings, sometimes both. If you feel ganged up on quite frequently, stop fighting or silently being depressed/put down. Get the fuck out! Get a job/better job, save your money, get a student loan, get a scholarship, WHATEVER and move the fuck out! Get your own place, your own things, and live by your own rules. That is the only sure way to stop being verbally abused on a daily basis.
Underneath the annoying voices of these loved ones is love....good intentions...and their belief that they know best for you. Sorry, but no, you know best for yourself. Parents can only guide you for so long....
If you don't have a car or any permanent means of transportation then change that first. You need to become independent. No more relying on anyone. The more you need others, the more they feel allowed to bash you or say shit to you. Start by getting your money right. Then, get your transportation going. Finally, get yourself some place or apartment or rental home (with or without roomies, whatever works for you) and be on the road to freedom.
Personalities don't always mix well, especially in families. How many times have you met two siblings who are exactly opposite of one another? Yeah, it happens frequently. Many times the two mindsets do not agree on things and there is always one who is stronger on their belief than the other.
Stop giving people power of yourself.
Live only for YOU and get your shit together.
If you feel under appreciated, you prolly ARE, so moving out and getting your own things will definitely take away this, too.
Just be prepared for a whole different list of problems that come with having your own place. Stress about rent, pure independency, adult-hood.
Also, You cannot be on your mom's health or auto insurance and have your own place. Get everything in your own name. It's better this way.
Just sayin.
-ssr
How do you know if you're enviorment is considered toxic? I'll give a few examples.
Toxic doesn't mean someone is intentionally always putting you down or pissing you off. It can be from personalities clashing and leading to verbal abuse/fights, it could be two different opinions and one person's unwilling to settle on the agree to disagree method, it could be constant harassment on getting a job, or changing a job, or changing something about yourself, it could be constant reminding of what to do and how to do it. If you're under the age of eighteen, stop reading, because none of this will apply to you.
Sometimes it's parents, sometimes it's siblings, sometimes both. If you feel ganged up on quite frequently, stop fighting or silently being depressed/put down. Get the fuck out! Get a job/better job, save your money, get a student loan, get a scholarship, WHATEVER and move the fuck out! Get your own place, your own things, and live by your own rules. That is the only sure way to stop being verbally abused on a daily basis.
Underneath the annoying voices of these loved ones is love....good intentions...and their belief that they know best for you. Sorry, but no, you know best for yourself. Parents can only guide you for so long....
If you don't have a car or any permanent means of transportation then change that first. You need to become independent. No more relying on anyone. The more you need others, the more they feel allowed to bash you or say shit to you. Start by getting your money right. Then, get your transportation going. Finally, get yourself some place or apartment or rental home (with or without roomies, whatever works for you) and be on the road to freedom.
Personalities don't always mix well, especially in families. How many times have you met two siblings who are exactly opposite of one another? Yeah, it happens frequently. Many times the two mindsets do not agree on things and there is always one who is stronger on their belief than the other.
Stop giving people power of yourself.
Live only for YOU and get your shit together.
If you feel under appreciated, you prolly ARE, so moving out and getting your own things will definitely take away this, too.
Just be prepared for a whole different list of problems that come with having your own place. Stress about rent, pure independency, adult-hood.
Also, You cannot be on your mom's health or auto insurance and have your own place. Get everything in your own name. It's better this way.
Just sayin.
-ssr
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