The harder part is STAYING moved on!

You don’t have to be with a boy or girl to be broken up with, or to break up with someone. Families break up and friends can break up, too. It’s sort of almost easy at first to not give a shit, because normally there is some anger or hate involved and you’re trying hard to bury your pain. Then eventually, it becomes sad, because you realize you miss things or times and it’ll never be the same again. Even if you were to get back together, there is the known fact of the time when you went your separate ways-regardless of whether it was your fault or not. And finally you forget and stop caring because so much time has gone by that it doesn’t even matter/bother you anymore.

You have moved on.

There is another side of this truth. The hardest part about a break-up is seeing this person/people after years have gone by. Being at the same dinner table (for whatever reason/mutual friends) and having to know, at one point this person you are looking at was your best friend/lover. You knew every single detail about their life, and they knew everything about yours. Now? All you know is what their wearing for this dinner.

You want to ask questions, but you can’t. You want to say things, but it’s too late. You want to know why, but they don’t care to tell. Or do they? You’ll never know. Unless you’re brave enough to decide and do these things, so you no longer have to wonder, but there’s that awful possibility of rejection. So.. you don’t do anything. You just sit, enjoy the night, smile on the outside as you wonder/hurt on the inside, and go your separate ways (again).

Either be the brave one and ask questions that you feel you need the answers to, or just let go and move on and stay moved on.

Don't ever get into the same relationship with a different face. It's not gonna be different. And definietly don't get into the same relationship with the same (old) face. If it didn't work the first time, regardless of circumstances, chances are it won't work the second time.

 

This is not just for romantic relationships-I am directing this to friendships, too.

 If a female was a liar before, why trust her again? You're just asking to get hurt. If a bitch stole your man, why give her another chance to try to steal another? If a man cheated on you once-he will cheat again (most likely), if a family member has a money-over-family addiction and it leads to lying, stealing, being manipulative KEEP.YOUR.MONEY.AND.ALL.RELATED.THINGS.AWAY! If a co-worker snitched on you once, she/he will do it again, and prolly enjoy it more the second time.

So, don't be a fool. Don't be naive. Don't be DUMB. Don't be oh-I-see-the-good-in-people all the damn time. People are not always good...If a sales person got you to use your rent money for clothes/products do not let them check you out again (especially if you're bad at saying no)..this could go on forever, but you get the point.

It's best to move on and then STAY moved on! :) It will not be easy because it's so conveniet knowing things about someone and how they are, old habits and ways of someone... That's why staying moved on is sometimes a challange, but you can do it...wanna know how I know? Because they already have done it to you... Make it look easy and eventually it slowly becomes easy! :)

You'll know you've moved on when you're not mad anymore thinking about it. You will have learned from the expereience and hopefully not make the same mistake twice. Take everything as a learning lesson. Don't stay bitter or angry. It's unhealthy. & always, always, put yourself first. If you don't love yourself, others won't be able to, either. You deserve the best so never settle for something less. And when you're NOT looking, that's when you find the best of things. <3.

-ssr